I’ve been think a lot about Spalding Gray lately. For those of you who don’t know who he was, he was a premier monologuist, actor, writer, poet, and generally all around good guy. His credits include such gems as “Swimming to Cambodia,” “Gray’s Anatomy,” and “Monster in a Box.” He had acting roles in such movies as “The Killing Fields,” “Beaches,” and many other flicks. He appeared as a normal person without any celebrity attached whatsoever. Spalding committed suicide back in 2004 by jumping off the Staten Island Ferry, after suffering severe depression resulting from a horrible auto accident. Spalding, although a few years older than me, was a good friend of mine. His father was a good friend of my dad, and his grandfather was a good friend of my grandfather. Our families have been friends for at least 4 generations, maybe five. Spalding, or Spud, Spuddie, or whatever you called him was a first rate guy, with a sharp mind that one rarely runs across. He used to come down and visit his late father, Rocky, who lived next door to my parents. We had some fun times, fishing, going to bars, and partying hard. He was a very complex mind, with many of the quirks of genius. However, I really enjoyed hanging around with him, when he was around. His suicide wasn’t unexpected by me, as I saw it coming a mile away. Still, it was very tragic, and he left a widow and a couple of kids. His father has been dead for awhile, and his step-mother still lives in our neighborhood part time. I ran into her the other day, and we had a nice chat. I re-introduced my son to her, and later told him to look up Spalding’s works. John checked out his bio, and downloaded bootleg copies of a few of his works. John was, needless to say, impressed with my old friend. He asked me many questions, and made me drag out old pictures. He furthermore added that he would like to grow up and be just like Spalding. I told him that with his mind, his creativity, and the WASPiness, he could probably pull it off. Thinking about it all, I realized that there is no better legacy to Spalding than my son’s admiration.
I’ve been having a rather rough few days, with the loss of Denise weighing heavily on my mind. I find myself still feeling her presence, and it’s rather unsettling. John is feeling very melancholy as of late, and has been throwing himself into his quest for more knowledge. He had a little get together last night with some friends who live in Sarasota County that all went to Exeter, Andover, Choate, and assorted Ivy league schools. Our house was preppie central, and I found out that those kids certainly know how to party. One thing that escaped me was that I never knew that at the good Ivy league schools, each institution is composed of two different schools…..those who went to prep schools, and those who came from public schools. The two groups rarely intersect, except in class. The preppies have their own fraternities, and clubs, and the kids are usually legacies with money. The public school kids, who are probably much brighter, are too busy to party. I stress to my son to be nice to everyone.
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Jeff